So apparently my application for grad school has been sitting on someone’s desk for the past two months and I can’t get a hold of this said person. I’ve called the admissions office twice and they can’t do anything for some reason. It’s been pushed to the department and it’s up to the department to accept or reject me. At this point, I don’t care if they reject me, but I kinda need to know before the semester starts in a few days. I’ve never seen an office run so poorly. I sort of expected some issues with this school, but not this. Not completely being ignored. I’ve emailed another person in the department, but who knows if they’ll bother responding. I’m not sure what to do. I can just move on, and try to get into another schools program within the next week, or I just sign up for a class as a non degree student and hope I can fix this issue before next semester. Assuming there will actually be classes for me to take then. The class I need to take for the program was cancelled due to low enrollment. Gee, was it because you didn’t bother admitting students who would take the class? Something is wrong here and I’m fucking pissed off about it. There is no reason for it and I really don’t need this level of stress.
I don’t know how this happened. why am I talking to him? why did I become closer friends to him? I am so damaged and crave male attention that I’m worried for my own well being at this point. I came so close to kissing him. Why did I let myself get so easily manipulated. He did do the nicest thing anyone has ever done for me. I am so weak. Now I fantasize about him. and I was never even remotely attracted to him before. And he made it clear he had selfish intentions. what the fuck is wrong with me? I hope when I do see him, and not just text him, my senses will come back to me. I can tolerate him on the internet, but he is too overwhelming in person.
Why can’t the nice, single guys like me? why is it always creepers? What about me makes me an easy target?
Sorry for not posting. I’m sorry to myself too, since I keep forgetting how much writing makes me feel better. I haven’t sleep much this week. Just stupid thoughts taking over my brain about how pointless it all is. I’m fighting against things a normal person shouldn’t have to fight for. Like independence from my family. I forget if I’ve posted about this before (and I’m too tired to go look it up), but my mom has found another excuse for me to never move out. Now I’m supposed to spend everything I’ve saved for to buy a house for my grandparents so they can be close by in their old age. She claims she’s having me do this as a benefit to me. I get an “investment” (?) and when my grandparents are done with it, I can sell it and buy the house I really want. I get most of the financial side of it (well, I’ve rationalized it) and it would be a very nice thing for a granddaughter to do, but no here seems to care about what I want to do. They don’t even ask. I’m sick of doing what I’m told. I feel like I did my last year of school and my mom and I fought constantly. I just want to do what I want. Why am I not allowed? oh, because she’ll flip out on you, take away your things, lock you out of the house and scream at you until 4am. That’s why I don’t do what I want. I’m terrified of her. I need to stop.
Now she doesn’t even want me to move nearby (I’m supposed to wait for my neighbor to die and then I can by his house. Seriously, this is how she thinks. Everything I want to do I have to wait for someone to die first 😦 ). I mentioned buying and living in a house up the street, and she yells at me, “what am I supposed to do with a 5 bedroom house?”, “You’re going to leave me alone?” (my brother still lives here mind you). I don’t know how to argue with her.
And I feel so guilty if I do leave. She can’t afford the house without me and I don’t want to be the one responsible for forcing her to move and sell the home she’s worked on for 25 years. She never thought about what would happen if I’m not here. I hate feeling so trapped.
And now I’m crying again. Well, best to get this out of the way before bed this time. Ugh.
Posted in depression, inner thoughts, life, relationships, stress, train of thought, update
Tagged failure, fear, hell, mother, not an adult, pathetic, weak
The Boy update:
So the Boy and I aren’t really talking so much anymore. I’ve seen him once in two weeks, and that was a few days ago at basketball. We got along fine then. I think he’s been missing me a little, but not as much as he has in the past when we went weeks without seeing each other. Usually there would be some invite to hang out by now. I think he’s tired of me, and my disappearing acts. I get relationships need to go both ways, and I should just ask him to hang out more, but that just isn’t my style. I tried, actually, and that backfired. Every sunday that we do hang out, I always ask him “Up to anything good this weekend?” or “Do anything this weekend?” The answer I always get is “not really” or “not much”. occasionally I’ll get that he rode his bike down the bike path. So, stupid me, for some reason started believing he doesn’t do much on weekends. I asked him to a concert on a saturday (I asked him the monday before) and he dodges the question. I must have caught him off guard since he looked a little flustered and instead of answering me, he asks his own questions. I emailed him the details that night and all of a sudden he magically has plans for that saturday. I know he does stuff and for some reason doesn’t want to tell me, but that finally pissed me off. I don’t care what you do, but don’t hide it from him. If he has a real girlfriend then, why bother with me in the first place? I don’t get it. All we ever do is watch football and sometime eat pizza (If there’s time, since he just seems to fit me in before he has a bball game to get to). We don’t even go out anymore. I’ve never met any of his friends (and he doesn’t seem to want to meet mine).
I guess I’ve finally had enough. I’m sick of this pseudo-relationship. I want a real one. I know he at least somewhat cares about me, but I don’t understand what is going on. I’ve only had one real relationship and that was emotionally intense. I’m not sure if my relationship with the Boy is normal or not. Maybe I’m expecting too much.
I just spent the last hour browsing profiles of guys near me on OkCupid. I’m not inherently against online dating, but I don’t think I can do it. And given the 3 guys that I recognize on the site (two I went to high school with), I want to stay far far away from that site. They all seem to be asshat jocks or depressed nerds.
Maybe it’s the depression talking, but I don’t even have any sex drive any more (given that I’m a virgin, I mean any type of sexual arousal. Nothing seems to get a physical or emotional response anymore.) I know I don’t want to be alone forever, but I don’t feel “that way” about anyone I know anymore.
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